Patterns

How do you trust someone so completely to feel able to devote the rest of your life to them, to make them a death-till-us-part life partner?

What if they change after the vows? What if over the years they develop in a direction opposed to your direction? Will they make you miserable down the road or being you happiness?

You may be in love right now. That much is true.

But this kind of love glows hot and in time burns away. What is left is a decision to stay together based on how intertwined your lives have become. 

You can get a clue how your loved one will make that decision by looking for their patterns. These are patterns of behavior from their past. In your own mind, use words like practical, impatient, shallow, careful, considerate, needy, wise.

Ask your loved one about their past, paying attention to their attitude in addition to their words. Then, take the time to verify their viewpoint by cross referencing stories with their friends and relatives. Don’t fool yourself. Love comes in many forms. There are many people to love. The trust you need in a Life Partner is only as strong your match.

If their true patterns are the kind you can love and be comfortable trusting, you have a match. After all, you will see these patterns clear as day when all is said and done. Why not gather this information ahead of your choice for a Life Partner?

Question: Why have a Life Partner?

Answer: Because life is meant to be shared, the ups the downs, the ins and outs.

If this has been helpful, please let me know. I need your comments.

Love,

Pasha